Recovering from an awful relationship

Falling  apart is a branch of every relationship. We might not consider failure as a factor in a commitment but actually it’s like a thorns in every roses, a bee in every flower, and a storm in a summer. If there were no break-ups nor fights, maybe we all have a wonderful relationship. We won’t have sleepless nights, plump eyes, day nightmares. However, come to think of it, it makes us stronger. A rose is not a rose without thorns; flowers without bees? How could they reproduce? and a storm in a summer, isn’t it fun that through the heat of summer once in a while there would be refreshing rain to balance the whole thing? Through those sleepless nights, we could reflect about what happened and eventually realize that it’s their loss. Plump eyes symbolizes that we’re human and we cry!

There are a lot of factors for a bad relationship such as jealousy,  it’s human nature and  we all have insecurities, other is incompatibilities, comparison, third is seeking, when you begun to seek for something from your partner, the problem occurs by then, or it could be other loves much while other loves little. Good foundation in a relationship is giving and not asking something in return, when you don’t have this, you’re not into a healthy commitment.

Recovering from a bad relationship isn’t that easy specially when you shared a lot but once break-up occurs, be brave and face it. To recover, make yourself busy, study, go to party, mingle with other people, pamper yourself and

ask for Lord’s guidance. Face the reality that the relationship didn’t work out. Be optimistic that at least you have memories to reminisce. Be thankful at the same time for at least that person made you happy even for a while. Open your heart for opportunities. Always put in mind that there is someone who’s destined to be with you and both of you will grow with each other and discover forever. Once you find that love, give it its wings for loving is not holding into it too tight but releasing it and letting it be in the right place. Remember that life isn’t perfect. It’s a blend of joy and sorrow; it’s just a matter of how you deal with it. Be happy because it’s not merely an emotion, it’s also a choice. As the saying says, “it’s better to be loved and got hurt than never be love at all”


***written when i was in college, not so much a writer then***