The so-called Quarter-life Crisis

Questioning myself on a lot of things has never been new to me. Lately, I've been having a spontaneous "quarter-life crisis". I've been thinking if I am in the place where I should be, if I have the job suited for me, if holding off the career I wanted to take is better for everyone else around, a lot of things.

Finally, before the year of 2014 ends, I quit on my job. It was a job of a little over a year.

Several differences have brought me clicking on the apply button on Jobstreet. I took a chance of applying to the company I've been eyeing on. Whoala, I got in (I'm kind of lucky with job applications, I must say). I was overwhelmed. I thought that working for this company and having a new environment will end this existential crisis that I am having. I was focused on what people would say or how I would be looked at which was the main reason of this self-doubting moments. I am, now, trying to look at things on a better perspective and trying to understand.

This 2015, I wanted to have a plan. Because, I usually don't. Currently, I don't have any life changing moments connected to this writing to share. As soon as there is, it will written here. I think this starbucks planner will be used for this year. *wink

Bidding goodbye. :)

I'm leaving you. I'm leaving you not because I can't see myself with you anymore but because I got tired of tolerating your things that I know I am not supposed to. I got fed up with all our differences that we weren't able to patch up. I, finally, was able to realize that my happiness isn't you anymore.

Years with you had been a twist of the best and the worst moments in my life. Even if I regret it now, I know nothing will change. I guess everything on earth will have their time wherein they'll reach their saturating point. A point wherein whatever we add to our life, we can't just accept it anymore. We just can't cause we are already saturated.

I would always look back and see you as part of my life. Lessons learned with and from you will not be forgotten. You were part of the foundation that I built in myself.

And yes, there is something else. Something had shown me better things and greater opportunities. I may not be able to compare you to this something new but I am willing to take the risk.

I'm leaving you and I want you to know, it is a hard decision that I made.

Goodbye, work. You had 5 years of my life.

You Are Blessed, Appreciate!

I was ranting about how tired I am during my work hours then I saw a man looking for a job.

I never stopped complaining how tiring it is every time I have to walk to my office then I saw man with no legs.

I always choose good food to eat then I saw a beggar without anything on his plate.

I always complain how hard life is without realizing how blessed I am.

I am lucky to have a job that sustain my and my family’s need.

I am fortunate to be able to walk and set foot on different places that I want to explore.

I am well-off to eat delicious food anytime I want.

Simply, I am blessed to have a life. It wasn’t just me, you too!

Stop complaining and look on things on a greater perspective, that makes the difference. :)

SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP

SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP By Rev. Ronald McFadden

If you’re not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, “Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.” Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really important. Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life”, you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can’t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don’t try to control one another. Learn each other’s family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don’t put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion. The difference between ‘United’ and ‘Untied’ is where you put the i

05.08.2011 * 11.27 AM CST * RH Bill

The Controversial: The RH Bill. The bill is controversial because a lot of citizens are concern about it. Government officials, political and private sectors, religious institutions, professionals, experts, youth, everyone has their own bombast regarding the matter, criticizing, opposing, and supporting it. Personally, I am a Pro RH Bill. (I'm sorry Father, for I have sinned.) I think it's for the country. Not thinking about extinction. LOL. We won't be extinct. It's not a law not to have child but rather a law not to have a child more than what you can uphold. Though it is a fact that the government is not a charitable institution to give it's people all their wants and needs, they should be responsible to have a better economy and country for it's taxpayers to relish. The RH Bill was proposed with intention to have a better economy by reducing poverty through education and availability of family planning resources. The RH Bill is simply an easy and a free access to family planning and educating not just the youth but more on the grown-up poor people the importance of taking responsibility with their actions which in this case is having a child. I don't see anything wrong with being practical these days. I understand the point of those people who are opposing the said Bill. They want to instill on Filipinos' mind that we should become naturally responsible. Having natural control over reproduction without any contraceptives involve. In late 80's or 70's that would be possible. But in this generation, wherein most are impulsive in making decisions for pleasure, that is close to impossible. People tend to do it first then think of the consequences after. I agree to what they say that family planning services can be improved even without a law but the absence of the law makes it easier to block the program. Over the years, family planning has been an on going program but nothing has changed yet or not a big thing has changed. This RH Bill is really a big help in the uncontrollably arising population and longstanding poverty. I'm not saying that this is the only solution to have a better economy because of course the number one problem is still corruption followed by the poorly implemented constitution and truncated trifling penalties! So, pass the RH Bill.

Thank you!

I spoke with an old man over the phone. It was over 40-minute call and it's worth it even my AHT got worse. He taught me a lot of things regarding life and settling down. It was really nice talking to him. He asked me if i was a graduate, I politely said yes. He was amazed that we Filipinos can graduate from college before the age of 22. He asked my major and when i told him what my major was he said I should go there and I'll make tons of money. He compared Filipino, American, and European culture. He said that the young generation in their country is in a hurry for success. Right after college graduation, they'd think that they'll be the boss of the company. He is so amazed how hard working we Filipinos are. That we are willing to start from the bottom position till we get to the top. I think it's how they were raised. Maybe, just maybe, in their place, not everyone or not a lot of people are required or given the privilege to study college. Here in the PH, your parents will do everything just to get you in a nice University and finish a degree. Here are other things that he taught me:

• Never buy a brand new car. (because its value will depreciate 30% once you drive it the first time)
• Invest on lands. (because its value keeps on rising years after years)
• Buy lands in the country where your families are. (parents, siblings, relatives..to be with them)
• Choose to be in a peaceful place when settling down. (with trees,grass, away from the city life where you spent most of your career life)
• Learn how to save even if you are on the peak of your career. (because you never know how long you will stay there)

What a small talk! These were just some. His last statement was "If you're just nearby, I'll take you to dinner" He is like a father who's longing for a child. Hope to talk to you again, sir.

Bagyong Ondoy sa Pinas

It was a disaster. Once again, we faced another challenge from nature. I was one of the lucky people who did not experience the scenario above, and i keep on thanking God. I feel for my fellow Filipino. I was a bit worried and scared about the weather and i can't imagine how much more are the people in the calamity area. I wish a could do small things for them, i just prayed. While watching the news on tv i feel so overwhelmed because of the help coming from different people, different sectors, different companies. Ang Pilipino nga naman, kahit gano kakuripot, lumalabas ang pera sa oras ng pagtutulungan. I was and am so proud that I am a Filipino specially in times like this. People help each other without expecting anything in return. Kahit gano kakonti they make it a point na naiishare nila sa iba. Ansarap sa pakiramdam kapag nagtutulungan. Once again we proved the world how united we are. I knew it from the start, and I am confident about it, we can make it through the storm. Nakabangon tayo dati, makakabangon tayo ulit. Kudos! =)) My prayers for those who lost their loved ones, houses and valuable possession cause of the tragedy, for those who are still coping. Let's continue hoping for a better tomorrow while keeping our faith burning. God bless Philippines. God bless Filipinos.